People can just hurt each other. And it hurts.
For those who have been hurt, or betrayed, or treated unjustly… I’m sorry you had to go through this.
Can I share a bit of my perspective on this?
When hurts occurs, I notice that the person being hurt will either:
1) Look outwardly and blame someone else. Or..
2) Look inwardly and Doubt.
Why me? Why did God allow this to happen? Did I do something wrong?
Neither one of these reactions are effective. In fact, putting the fault on to someone else, or questioning God will never ease the problem. It just adds more confusion, pain and makes things worse for our sanity!!
So what can we do?
We can…
1) SHIFT THE PERSPECTIVE TO GOD
Have you considered How God can be in the picture? Could there be a BIGGER picture as to why these things occurred? Could it be to shape us? To rid us of our selves and humble us?
I was reading about being authentic. Authentic individuals show courage and they have been broken. Broken how?
Broken in a sense that they have nothing to hide, nothing to lose and nothing to prove anymore. Broken in that their ego, ambitions and insecurities no longer matter.
Perhaps God allowed these things to happen to break us.. It hurts. As if our dignity and “perfect” image is ripped away.. But can you see something beautiful in this?
Can you see authenticity in this?
2) GO TO THE WORD
When I’m hurt, confused and discouraged… I read Psalms. It is written by King David – who was hunted by firstly, king Saul who was jealous and insecure about his position… And his own son, Absalom.. Who was after David’s position.
Can you imagine that? Your own flesh and blood betraying and wanting you dead?!?
Yet, in all that, David never once retaliated! Even when he could have paid Saul back, or stopped his son from taking over.. David did not turn to evil ways. He did not repay wrong for wrong.
Instead… King David worshipped God! His heart knew that this life, his position as King did not belong to him.. God gives.. He can also take away…
3) THIS TOO, SHALL PASS!
Acknowledge that He IS Able to carry us through! Don’t lose hope! Keep your eyes fixed firmly on to Him. Seek His grace to help you carry your cross.. He is merciful and His Grace is made perfect when we are weak.
4) SEEK HIS WISDOM
Ask for Understanding! Oh How Unsearchable are His ways, but you can still ask for His Spirit to guide you and give you that understanding.
We may never know why things happen as they did… BUT, I believe that He does Speak. Ask for what He wants to reveal to you regarding the matter / problem.
5) KNOW WHO GOD IS!
He is
– Sovereign
– Good
– In Control
– Wise
– He will bring IT to Pass
Lastly, I just want to leave you all with this verse- just as Jesus was about to leave the world Je said to His disciples
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
In Him we can have peace, don’t let bitterness, anger and resentment rot your soul and spirit! Come to Him, if it is His will to break you and me through the “arrows” thrown by others… Lets come to Him and find Peace in His Presence.
With love,
Melinda